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Sorry you're having (so many) problems.
First, as to the TIR make sure you are running the TIR software as an admin with elevated rights (been years since I set it up so I can't recall the exact steps for doing that in whatever version of Windows you are running, but IIRC I had a similar issue getting TIR to work in the game until I did that).
Second - the full screen setting is a tick box on the graphics tab of the launcher's settings screens (see screenshot below):
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- if you've got that checked and it still isn't going full screen then I'm not sure what to tell you about that.
Third, exactly what do you mean when you say that your controllers aren't working in RoF - what happens when you try to assign an axis or button on the controllers to a command in the RoF controls setup screens?